Shallow

As I drift on clouds of thought, I came across something my friend once said. She said “Kaizer you’ll never find a girlfriend, you’re too picky”. Well just to be fair to her, let me give you the proceedings that lead to these words being said. I was at her place as usual on a Tuesday afternoon and I happened to tell her that I met a lady that was rather fascinating. Unaware that I would be offensive, I mentioned something about this particular lady’s physical appearance. Than she caught me off guard and said “You’re being shallow. Why are you concerned about her body?” After trying to justify my statement she said the words that have to some extent imprinted themselves in my mind. Recently I’ve found it hard to settle for every random thing that comes my way. I’m not shallow nor am I too picky, I just don’t believe in dating someone and learning to love them afterwards. That’s why I closely scrutinize someone before dating them. When I say closely scrutinize, I mean paying attention to every aspect starting with the physical appearance, intelligence and personality. Not to say that I’m looking for a perfect lady that out shines the Virgin Mary, mother Teresa and Beyonce. Obviously human perfection is a myth and there will be one aspect that will not come up to standard. But there is no crime in holding on to the false idea that someone right is out there. I’ve been in a situation where I found myself sitting up at night wondering” Who is this person sleeping beside me?” Maybe I was captivated by the whole idea of love that once the words “I love you” were uttered, I jumped straight into a relationship despite the fact that I was uncertain about how I feel. Well all that I’ve experienced, with regards to relationships, has taught me some valuable lessons such as, not rushing things that are ultimately inevitable. Now I’ve diverted all my attention to enjoying and loving life. In return I hope life gives back its love in the form of a pulchritude and intelligent lady. If my dear friend reads this, note that I still refuse to accept that I’m being shallow by being concerned about physical appearance.